Intimacy After 65

Some older adults avoid intimacy due to the physical issues of their aging bodies or their “performance,” while others are affected by emotional challenges.  Being a mature adult comes with its benefits.  Seniors know what works and what doesn’t.  Their experience and self-awareness make for excellent intimacy! It’s important to note that according to the CDC, reported STDs reached an all-time high for the 6th consecutive year, so be sure you’re protecting yourself and others!

  • Connect emotionally before Physically: Getting to know each other and connecting will allow you to connect in confidence and show love through intimacy. Speak openly and hug often
  • Have confidence: Confidence and honesty garner the respect of others, which can be sexy and appealing.  Discuss assistive devices with your partner.
  • Hormone replacement: For both women and men. Discuss with your doctor.  Bioidentical hormone replacement can help the things that both men and women experience that put up barriers to intimacy.
  • Change your routine: Simple, creative changes can improve your sex life. Change the time of day to a time when you have more energy. For example, try being intimate in the morning rather than at the end of a long day.
  • Medical conditions: Illnesses that involve the cardiovascular system, high blood pressure, diabetes, hormonal problems, depression, or anxiety can affect sex drive and function. Talk with you doctor for suggestions. 
  • Medications: Certain medications can inhibit your sexual response, including your desire for sex, your ability to become aroused and your orgasmic function. Talk with you doctor.
Debbie Marcello joins FOX Rochester on her weekly segment to discuss senior health/care tips.